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  No Spiritual Heritage

  by serenitynow! in

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  for the born/raised ins, do you feel that you no longer have a spiritual heritage/background/traditions?

  i was sitting at my desk absentmindedly humming a "kingdom melody" from the brown songbook, when i realized what i was doing and made myself stop.

  there were songs that i really enjoyed.

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  I agree there is little real "spiritual heritage" being raised as a witness-

  my witness family does have a big turkey dinner around thanksgiving time but they don't call it "thanksgiving"- they just say that they are taking advantage of time off of work to get together & their employers give them a turkey, so they may as well use it-

  I always thought it was a piss-poor excuse, and we were indeed celebrating thanksgiving regardless of how you tried to justify it otherwise-

  I was NOT invited to the gathering last year, and I know I will not be invited this year-

  I do miss the family gatherings sometimes, it was always fun to laugh together and play games & eat till you burst......I did go to a few family gatherings with Coffee Shop Guy but it is not quite the same

  CSG & I have set many of our own traditions as a couple that have been very nice, he has been so sweet & acomodating

  He says that he is ok if we don't do big Christmas celebrations- I am not ready for all that yet

  baby steps

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  Do you consider yourself to be quiet or outgoing?

  by mrsjones5 in

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  something someone said on one of the popularity topics got me to wondering who on the board is quiet and who are the outgoing ones in real life.

  i'm a quiet person in real life, takes me a while to warm up to folks that i just meet, but if i really like a person my rarely used gift of gab comes out.. how about ya'll?.

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  Coffee House Girl

  I too am quiet-partly because of jdub conditioning and partly because of family upbringing

  I am better with small groups or talking one on one

  loud groups of outgoing ones or parties really scare me

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  Hi!! New Here and need to express some feelings

  by Knb1983 in

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  i'm so glad i happened to stumble across this website cause i really need to express what i've been holding inside for quite some time.

  i'm 27 and was born and raised in the "truth".

  i'm married and my husband was also raised as a jw, been married for almost 7 years and have two kids who have just started kindergarten and preschool.

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  Welcome! Thanks for venting

  I too was a born in & am struggling with guilt over holidays such as christmas- my boyfriend has never been a JW and I want to please him but I just don't feel the same connection with holidays & I just don't feel like doing much for them-

  let us know how this holiday season goes with you and your family

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  SD-7 Is In the House!

  by snowbird in

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  welcome back!.

  you were definitely missed.. syl.

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  Coffee House Girl

  Welcome back! I was MIA for a couple weeks busy & was happy to see your posts again :)

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  Gorgeous guys and gals in the Witchtower Study

  by hamsterbait in

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  how often have you seen a picture of some gorgeous piece in the sunday study, and indulged in a sweet fantasy?.

  post your favorite lust inspiration here.

  you dont need to tell of your fantasy.... hehehehehehehehehehe.

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  Coffee House Girl

  I always thought whoever they used to model Jesus in the mags/greatest man book was hot

  I used to call him "hot Jesus"

  hmmmmmm........

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  Please ring in if you have currently hold a "rank" in the WTBTS

  by stillin9 in

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  just wondering how many active pioneers, elders, ministerial servants, or perhaps even co's visit this forum.

  no need to disclose any personal information just what you serve as.. i am sure other threads similar to this have existed but what the heck.... i'll start off.... i am currently serving as a ms in a congregation in the us.. .

  so what your's rank?.

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  Coffee House Girl

  Was in rank as a "nobody" in the WTBTS because I was not an elder's wife or daughter, and unable to pioneer because of my status as divorced but "not in Jeh's eyes".

  But now out of the Borg for a year I have no idea what the jdub rumor mill has said about my current rank- whore? drug-addict? apostate? worldly?

  everyone is right- WTBTS is rank!

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  Reverse Shunning

  by gutted in

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  i have a confession.

  i am using reverse shunning.. i have ignored the elders calls.

  i do not want to hang out with witnesses anymore (besides my family and one friend).

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  Coffee House Girl

  Yup, I also participate in reverse shunning

  last month I was in my shop window taking some inventory and my JW nice came walking by with her kids in stroller- I just waved and walked away to do something else- perhaps some would have went outside and chatted with her to be nice to family and prove that the whole jdub shunning mentality doesnt matter...but the truth is....

  I had absolutely nothing to say to her, it would have been an uncomfortable, forced conversation- and truthfully if she wanted to talk to me she could have walked in the store

  so....I say forget the lot of em

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  Heartsick

  by EmptyInside in

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  i'm sorry, it seems like i only post when i'm down.

  so, most here probably think i'm depressed all the time,which isn't true.. but, i had a long distance romance, and now he doesn't even respond to my e-mails.

  we have been talking for almost two years now.

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  Coffee House Girl

  awww..I'm sorry empty inside- being left with no explanation is very unfair, everyone deserves the dignity of some kind of closure

  My first "worldy" man friend doesnt talk to me either, but he is upset that I started dating coffee shop guy (but he wouldn't committ to a relationship so I don't know why he is so upset...but anyway I try not to get angry when he runs away from me when I walk down the street...so juvinile)

  hang in there- I hope for you to meet someone nice (someone closer- no more long distance)

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  How do JWs in your area treat those who are "No Longer A Publisher.."?

  by Open mind in

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  Coffee House Girl

  One case in the cong I attended is a young kid about 17 who's dad is an elder- after her announcement her parents treat her as a disfellowshipped person- so does most of the congregation- I lost touch with her, the rumer mill of JWs speculated that she went "apostate" and became a lesbian- I hope she is happy and healthy

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  Judicial Committee Excuses

  by asilentone in

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  back in 2001 or 2002, a jw sister who i consider it as a friend confided in me that his son got df'd, she told me about all of the details.

  he tried not to get df'd.

  he started explaining to the elders why he committed fornication with another jw sister(also got df'd) is that he personally watched his uncle shot himself in the head.

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  Coffee House Girl

  happyex-

  I was saddened by your experience, I am so sorry you had that ordeal-

  CHG